
Sharing the views on why our supper entertainers prefer BIG Mamas as back in the days, unwanted pregnancy was something that made people cringe with fear of humiliation.
It was a situation that made the affected young ladies want to run away
from home or change location as they couldn’t bear the constant taunts
and scorn that came with their pregnancy but in the present time, not
much thought is given to that situation anymore. It’s been wildly
accepted as a norm in the society now.
Shying away from responsibilities: Men
these days feel they have what it takes to have kids without being
ready to go through the usual marriage rites often prefer to have baby
mamas. It’s a way of dodging or shying from their responsibilities. They
want children of their own because they have reached a particular stage
when they feel incomplete without having kids but they don’t want to be
solely responsible for them. In some cases, they cater for these kids
and their mothers and sometimes they simply disappear. A desired young
woman is courted briefly and gotten pregnant at the long run.
Fame: Young
men of our society having attained success at a very early stage in
life tend to have so much adrenalin flowing through them. They feel the
urge to explore and have as many women as they want to themselves. They
aren’t cautious and are nonchalant when it comes to women. Ladies on the
other hand get attracted to famous men and get carried away in the bid
to enjoy life to the fullest with them. Ladies throw themselves at the
men without considering the consequences. I’ve heard ladies declaring
their love for certain stars and the extent to which they could go just
to have their kids.
Greed: Another
reason why the idea of being a man’s baby mama sells more is insatiable
greed. The man, because of the success attained starts to see himself
as a super man and feels he’s too much of an asset to a woman. Having
different women at his beck and call makes it difficult for him to stay
connected to one. Commitment becomes a difficult quest. The woman too,
having recognised the potentials of the man starts to see things in a
long term away. His dreams and ambition gives her the impression that he
would make a good life partner. Her judgement becomes cloudy while she
throws caution to the wind. Even when she gets pregnant, she thinks
having a baby for him would make him more endearing and settle down with
her. She sees herself as an undefeatable player who stands a better
chance compared to the other ladies he might be seeing. Before long, she
becomes a baby mama and the man is on to the next girl that catches his
fancy.
Men often go for women who have gone past the settling down age. It’s an
arrangement of convenience for both parties. The women with lost
interest in marriage prefer to have children of their own and care less
whether the men assume responsibility or not. Most of these women are
capable of raising kids on their own but only want to do so with certain
men.
The baby mama idea still doesn’t sound right and it’s still pregnancy
out of wedlock which has been in existence for years and has been
criticised by people with morals and values. So the paparazzi of being a
baby mama should be dropped a bit or rather the women should have a
rethink on the issue and conduct themselves as dignified and reputable
women of the society while the men step up their game and promote good
cultural and sustainable values.
Source: naij
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