Are you feeling that your
boyfriend could be using you? Yes? No? I know that doing some exploring
of your deeper feelings and asking yourself the hard questions in life
can be uncomfortable for many. But honesty is vital in self-improvement
and especially in romantic relationships.
‘Is my boyfriend is using me?’ I’ve actually been asked this question
many times by women, and they’ll also want to know the signs that a man
is using you. Then, the first thing I’ll usually ask them is this; ‘How
do you FEEL about it?’ For often, the actual feeling that you’re being
used by a man is a major telling sign in itself.
So, if you have the actual feeling that you’re being used by a man,
your feeling is probably spot on! Far too often women either ignore
their intuition or deny/repress their feelings. They definitely need to
trust their own instincts more than they usually do!
Are you feeling that your boyfriend could be using you? Yes? No? I
know that doing some exploring of your deeper feelings and asking
yourself the hard questions in life can be uncomfortable for many. But
honesty is vital in self-improvement and especially in romantic
relationships. And, if you did happen to answer ‘yes’ to the question,
then you’re most probably
being used.
The fact is that a man either looks at you as a TEMPORARY companion
(such as a ‘booty call,’ ‘good time girl,’ or ‘friend with benefits.’
And, this may even be without you realizing it!) Or, he’ll be looking at
you as a permanent girlfriend whom he’s truly devoted to. A man who’s
using you is not ever thinking about devoting himself to you
wholeheartedly – or having a real relationship with you. He’s simply
looking for a brief fling where he can take advantage of you. You’re
just a convenience.
Now, HOW can you really tell if a man is using you? Here are 10 blatant signs he’s just using you….
1. He isn’t that interested in REALLY getting to
know you, wanting to learn all about your interests, your dreams, your
family…. in fact, he doesn’t really ask you many questions about
yourself at all. All he ever really seems to want to do is…. ahem…. be
alone with you.
2. He doesn’t make any significant effort to please you, surprise you
or make you feel special. He doesn’t buy you chocolates, flowers or
gifts (if his pay packet allows it,) EVEN on your birthday, Valentine’s
day or other important holidays.) If he does happen to buy you the
occasional gift, it’s always related to sex…. like lingerie. Even so,
he’s certainly not going out of his way for you, or doing lots of nice
or helpful things for you either (the hallmarks of love.)
3. He’s not very affectionate (out of bed) and he doesn’t show any
significant feelings. He doesn’t gaze into your eyes lovingly, stroke
your face tenderly, give you back massages…. (and you’d actually be
quite happy to be able to reciprocate this.) And, once you’ve slept
together, he may even try to